Good and Bad are familiar categories we tend to use as a reaction to what happened, and for the events that we anticipate. Is categorization necessary?
This Heather Lanier’s TED talk was personal and touching.
Acknowledging and accepting what it is without labeling good, bad, ugly, pretty, and so on, provides clarity. Clarity, in turn, conserves energy to take the necessary action. Looking at something precisely as what it is — not applying your logic derived from conditioning, but as it is.
Heather Lanier demonstrated exactly that. When others saw a deficiency in her newborn baby and toddler, later on, she saw humanity. The lesson for all of us, and even better, if we can extend that rationale, to any person we interact with, giving them the benefit of the doubt. The human relationships would go a long way in a transformative manner.
I’m quoting K, who said that we have an image of everything. We never interact with the actual thing but with the image: our impressions accumulated during an extended period. Sometimes imparted by the cultures we live in, and some other times it’s the prejudices we cultivate. Our relationships are more with the impressions of that person (images in our mind) than with the actual person, as they are; the constant struggle between what-should-be vs. what-is.
Yes, good or bad, hard to say. Maybe you don’t have to say! Amor Fati. Whether you go as far as to accept and love fate, it’s a start to stopping yourself from labeling and categorizing the feelings and emotions into good or bad.